Blarm! – Show #39
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The Break-up Show

B – The Break-up
L – Everything I Don’t Like
A – Bedrooms and Serial Killers
R – Masturbation or Being A Whore (I’m Clueless)
MMontreal, Contact Me, Flappr Map Confusion, Kimo Watanabe

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17 Responses to “Blarm! – Show #39”
  1. Sneaker Peet says:

    I’m sorry to be this early again, it’s due to my timezone. I was so moved by this podcast, I found myself in another city when it finished.

    Cheer up, Peet

  2. Carrie says:

    You are adorable! So appreciative of your honesty in sharing such personal pain…your positive spirit shines through it all and it’s evident that you’ll be okay. In the meantime, take good care of yourself.

    Warmly,
    C

  3. Bob says:

    Darn it, Dana. I look forward to you cheering me up every Monday morning.

    Crap.

    Having never been in a relationship myself, let alone having been part of a break up, I have no idea what the best thing to say is without it sounding cliched or cynical.

    Have you tried listening to “Pennsylvania Polka?” For some reason, that always cheers me up.

    And, of course, you do realize what you’ve just done now, right? You’ve essentially broadcast your singleness and availablity to thousands (and potentionally millions) of lust-crazed, sex-deprived, and needy perverts and nerds. I’m envisioning the modern day Internet equivalent of sacks and sacks of Dear Santa letters from The Miracle on 34th street. I haven’t quite figured out if you’re completely insane… or a Machiavellian genius.

    BTW, did I mention I’m single…? 😉

    Good luck, take it easy, and (most importantly) have fun!

    (heh, heh… I said, “sacks.”)

  4. Mark says:

    You are going to get so many of these.

    Having been in a similar situation a little while back I can let you know that the living on your own bit is horrible at first but does get better. The fact is every thing get better with time even the loss of a relationship. The problem is no one can tell you how much time it will take. Take some comfort that there are at least 90 people who are thinking of you and wishing you well. If you feel like having a moan we’ll be listening.

    sleep tight

  5. teresa c. says:

    Hey girl! How’re you doing? Now, everyone needs a Bridget Jones’ period, so enjoy yours ’til you get tired of it. (This will eventually happen.) Treat yourself nicely and DO shave above the knee – I don’t know about you, but I have these growse black hairs in the back of my legs, and that’s not a pretty sight!, not to talk about the touch of the damn things, and the weird thing is that the hairs in the front are almost invisible. It’s dsgusting anyway, so shave and be happy. 🙂

  6. I’m willing to bet that your best material is about to…uh…materialize. Nothing like some emotional trauma to fuel your muse. I’m sorry you gotta feel so crummy, Dana, but mark my words, the Blarmcast is soon to take off like crazy! Put your money down now, people!!!

    Now go out and treat yourself to something extravagant–fuck what anyone else thinks of you–take care of you first and be good to you.

    And this one’s for you, WnkrGrl: MWAH!!!

  7. Kim says:

    Don’t worry Dana, it’ll get better!

  8. hotsauselover says:

    We are all here for you Dana. There is some good advice above. One good thing is that music will make more sense to you now.

  9. deirdre says:

    What an effing drag. I’m sorry, Dana. But I’ve got to say, your podcast is great – you’ve done so much with a new(ish) artform.

  10. Anthony says:

    Dana,

    I am sorry to about your break-up. I dont know what to say to cheer you up or anything in a consoling manner at this point. Just know that I am here. Its ok.

    Ant

  11. Dr John says:

    Hey..Just started listening. .This was one of my first episodes…Heartbreaking ..and very brave of you to share. Oddly enough I have 2 friends who just went through the same thing..then the guys changed their minds and both came back ..and…the girls LET them come back! *sigh* Unreal……

    Well..you have yet another listener. Great show.

  12. Anna says:

    Oh, Dana, I feel for ya. I know what it’s like to break up with somebody you’ve been with for a loooooooooong time. It sucks so bad at first, but it really does get better when you realize you can do all the things you love to do that he used to either be annoyed by or hate to do. It does take some time to adjust, but really, it’s gonna be A-OK.

    If I lived nearby, I’d treat you to a Krispy Kreme and we could hit the bars for a Girls’ Night Out. And you could wear your fancy-pantsy gold heels. Mrrrow!

    Just so you know, I’m still planning on sending you an audio comment of me playing my annoying horn and scaring the bejesus out of my cat. I just haven’t found the right song for it yet.

  13. Dawn says:

    Hmmm, wanna swap? ‘Cause my house is WAY too full right now (3 small people aged 5 and under, 2 english bulldogs, 1 hubbie)…can 100%guarantee you would NEVER be alone or in danger of thinking you’d ever be alone for 5 mintues even in the bathroom again.

    But seriously, am sorry to hear how things have come out. Transitions are always hard, but you hear this girl…seriously, go look in the mirror and repeat after me “i am smart enough, i am interesting enough, and gosh darn it, people like me!” Seriously. You’re like thousands of miles from here in Minnesota, and I’ve never met you and probably never will, but the mintues I spend with your voice every week tell me there’s absolutely zero chance of you being alone if you don’t want to be. You’ll attract someone every bit as quirkily awesome as yourself, you won’t be able to help it.

    Hugs, pats and all the rest…

  14. Big Phil says:

    Hey, I just started listening to your show. I heard your interview with Sue Grandys and was very intrugued.
    I’ve been through the same thing, as have many before me.
    My situation was similar, but we were married and owned a home.
    We also shared many joint accounts; credit cards, signature loans, etc.

    I’ve decided to never again marry or live with someone.
    When the relationship fails (and yes, the odds are in favor of this happening) its more complicated than just packing up and moving.

    I’ve found there is a certain strength and dignity that comes with being alone.
    Being alone is empowering.
    Don’t be insecure!
    Its not your fault, it just didn’t work.
    This is what happens with relationships.

    By the way, I’m single!

    Phil

  15. Liz says:

    Somebody sent me a link to BLARM because I have been posting about my recent breakup and my continued dating experiences. My relationship was not at such an established point, so it’s not the same thing as yours. But, I’ve previously been through a divorce. I’ve got to tell you, I don’t think it gets easier with time or increased breakups.

  16. David says:

    Hi Dana,

    Just listened to BLARM 39 ans was sorry to hear you and Phil broke up, but I wanted to offer some words of encouragement.

    I have to say that a number of years ago, I was in a similar situation to yourself – in that the relationship I though was “IT” was suddenly gone, and I was dealing with the same emotions and issues you find yourself in the middle of.

    I won’t lie – it was a tough time, and personally, I was a complete mess for about 3 weeks or so – couldn’t go to work, didn’t want to eat, didn’t want to see my friends, and people were concerned for me.

    Throughout this time, I stupidly thought we could get back together (she had cheated on me, and I ended things – then began second guessing myself), but came to my senses when I realised that there was no way I could trust her, and that only I was going to make a difference in my life at the time.

    I’m guessing you and Phil at least don’t have that issue to deal with, and you said in the show he was your best friend. Well I hope the friendship can remain for you guys – seems it’d be a waste to throw away 7 or 9 years of history because you simply can’t be a couple any more.

    Don’t worry about how you sounded – you were amazingly together, for my money, after less than a week. Well done to you, I say. You’re trying to get your head around all sorts of things at the moment, and my bet is that you have moments when it all seems too much to deal with, and you just want to crawl away somewhere and hide. All I can say is that in my experience, it will pass in time (How much? Buggered if I know…. How long is a piece of string?), and from what I’ve heard, you’re a pretty together girl, so my guess is it will be sooner rather than later. Please don’t become (for long anyway) one of those whiney victims for whom everything which happens to them is the fault of others. I don’t think that’s you, personally.

    A quick word of advice….. if any of your friends suddenly ask you out to meet “oh, just this guy”, tell them to get lost, until such time as YOU ask THEM if they know any suitable guys. I had friends trying to “set me up” all over the place just after, and it was hard not to be extremely rude to them, and let them know in no uncertain terms I WASN’T ready yet. Please let your friends know NOW (unless of course you ARE ready) that it’s just not a place you want to go yet.

    And hey, when the time comes, you’ll have no trouble finding men interested in you. I’ve seen your pic, and I have to say I think you’re quite attractive, so there’s no issues for you there.Women have it much easier finding guys, I think…though I have to say, my personal story has a happy ending – I have now found my soul mate – “The One” and we are busy planning our lives together. Yes, you WILL get a second chance, when you’re ready, and you’ll be able to use what you learned in this relationship to help you in the next.

    That’s about enough babbling from me for now – love the show, and look forward to it every week.

    Remember, it WILL look better in time.

    Keep safe,

    David (Frappr Map member from Perth, Western Australia)

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